We may never understand another’s behavior, ever. And we may not have any other choice but to deal with it, and ultimately relationships can sometimes be a source of very real pain.
Sometimes you may wind up feeling used, tricked, or that you were never loved at all.That hurts. Big time 😦
It is in those moments we may lose track of our higher selves (especially if we should feel an urge to protect ourselves or others, when being attacked). None of this crap is any fun. Maybe we ourselves are viewed as the difficult party at times?
Do you turn to your mat or meditation cushion during these times?
Yoga, meditation and pranayama are powerful tools.
Meditation shows us that we are so much more then those hurt feelings and thoughts running through our heads. It can really help you to move past the pain. I am also a fan of good ‘ol fashioned Psychotherapy. There is professional help out there should you need it. Never feel ashamed! Its nobody’s business and life can get very complicated at times for the best of us.Find a friend to listen, get on your mat, sit with the pain, (order some pecan pie like I did last night haha) have a good cry, go for a run…do what ever it takes. Just unload.
It might be something that takes a long time to heal from.
Give yourself the time to heal and remember that you are never alone. Chances are the person who hurt you is suffering at some very deep level themselves. Or maybe they are afraid? Afraid of what, you may never know. Sadly some deeply unhappy people want to bring you down emotionally so they aren’t alone. Us humans act in strange ways sometimes. Lets face it we all do.
Relationship conflict and stress have been shown to have a clear negative impact on health, affecting blood pressure, contributing to heart disease, and correlating with other conditions. That’s why it’s in your best interest to minimize (or sometimes sadly) eliminate negative relationships in your life. We aren’t going to change anyone. We can sometimes “influence” another person but in the end we can only change ourselves.
Be good to yourself and to the good people in your life and remember that line that rings so true..
“Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.”